Could the secret to a long marriage have anything to do with money? Since finances are the number ONE cause of divorce, I would think if you can agree on this, your marriage would at least have a higher chance of lasting, statistically speaking. I was reading THIS article yesterday and came across a couple who had been married more than 80 years…John and Ann Betar. Married in 1932 and were awarded honors this year for being married the longest by a Christian organization called Worldwide Marriage Encounter.
They asked them the SECRET TO THEIR HAPPINESS. You know what they said?
“We just live with contentment and we don’t live beyond our means.”
Hmmm…interesting! You mean you can have a happy marriage if you live within your means? I guess so! Of course that means BOTH people have to be on board, which is very rare. My advice: Marry someone who has the same financial goals as you. Already married? Do 1 or all of these 3 things:
1. Pray every single day for WISDOM to make right financial decisions. Pray for your spouse if they’re living beyond their means. Pray that you two can understand one another (even if you’re the one who is smart with your money). Pray for contentment.
2. Talk TO your spouse (not AT them). LISTEN when they speak. Share your goals, ask them theirs. If they just don’t get why saving is important or why debt can kill your financial future, show them the facts…the numbers.
3. Seek help/encouragement. Whether it be from a professional counselor or a couple friend who have their finances in order. Knowing other people are living within their means is extremely helpful!
Jennifer McKeown says
great advice!! still working on our goal, but thankfully we are both on board and heading there!!
Shannon Brown says
So simple but so hard to achieve! Great advice!
Russell Dill says
I think there's no secret to make a marriage last. It's just the harmonious relationship that the man and wife are giving with each other. And of course, proper communication. Things won't be settled if neither of you are making a move to talk about problem, how small it may be.
Russell @Kenosis Center